Learning from Everyone, Especially Those you Disagree With Part 2: Advice for Men

I really hate to write about Andrew Tate (and his more debonair brother Tristan) but the man has sound bites. And clearly smart. Moral? A different thing although all there seem to be are accusations and no convictions. I have trust issues with mainstream media narratives. But the point is you learn from everyone. 

I was listening to a podcast interview he did and it really helped me as a family man, parent and man. 

“If I wake up and say I don’t care how happy I am, I want to be proud of myself and I want to make other people proud of me, so I have to do these things irregardless of how I feel, then I am going to have a fantastic life. 

How else are you going to get instant happiness unless it’s temporary. To get long term happiness is something that is only going to come from dedication and hard work, which requires short term suffering. It’s just delayed. If you are dedicating yourself and working hard for future happiness but considering most people are never happy with what you get and only want more, your life just becomes hard work, dedication, struggle and suffering just to exist within. And you don’t operate under the paradigm of happy or sad.”

He goes on: “You achieve your contentment when we make others happy. We give, we go to work, we struggle, we make money, we suffer so others can be happy because of us. It’s not our job to be happy ourselves.” 

This is a powerful frame to look at your life. Pain and suffering is the gateway to growth and success. Even more important is where this attitude takes you. 

“Unless you are competent and capable as a man, you can’t even love anything unless you are competent and capable as a man……..If you have no competence, you have no skills, no use case, your love is completely useless. Men are nothing but success objects. We are valued by what we do. Men are competency objects. Men are “what can he do”? What is he good at? That is all we are measured on is our capability.” 

Amen. The minute I understood and incorporated and lived this attitude my entire life got better. Happiness is a psy-op for men. 

You have to be a personal responsibility maximalist. “As a man every single thing that happens to you in your life, you absolutely and completely deserve.” If you want your life to become better, rewire your brain, step up and do the hard work.